cybersexuality

page updated: 31-Mar-2004

I have had cyber sex (cyber sex being basically phone sex, but typed out on the internet). My own reaction to this fact is that it is funny. You may now laugh at me too :) I don't think cyber sex is very cool, but that is me. I think it might be more satisfying if you actually had some kind of connection, or at least a quality control filter, with your cyber partner, instead of, alas, like me, having just happened across a randy someone of indeterminate age/sex/location in the quagmires of aol chat. (Yes, laugh at me some more I used to be on aol).

I do mainly think of cyber sex as an anonymous pursuit undertaken with anonymous strangers, but that may be because I've never really been involved with someone who spent a lot of time on the internet while they weren't physically with me. Actually, I don't think I've even been involved with a person who had a computer of their own at the time. Huh. I have never pursued a sexual relationship online, and I think that doing so would make me frustrated (being virtual, for one thing).

My few (two?) cyber sex encounters resulted from my being bored and having nothing else to do. It was basically an extension of masturbation, looking at porn, reading smut books, and the like. My experience with cybering is that it is really, really easy to find a partner, provided you don't have any standards of quality.

My experience with cybering was also plain silly. I am sure there are people on the internet who are actually capable of erotic chat, but whoever I was talking to was all about asserting (ahem, imposing) a fantasy on me, and was not amenable to any alterations regarding the content of the fantasy or even the structure of our conversation (imposition ("you do this, then you do this. you love it! you love it!"), fantasy narrative ("we're doing such and such...", question and answer ("are you hot for me, dyno-lover?"), real time description ("you'll never guess where my hand is..."), etc).

In short, I think being actually erotic during online chat requires some of the same sensitivities required in a good lover. Mainly, being aware of your partner and where he or she is at. That was insightful, I know.

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